How Long Does it Take You to Respond to Texts?

by Dr. Punita Rice Culture

How Long Does it Take You to Respond to Texts?

How long does it take you to respond to texts? Since people may tend to assign meaning to the amount of time that passes between their messaging you and your responding, do you feel pressured to respond more quickly?

Anuja‘s soon to be sister-in-law, and my new friend, Dr. Roopa Mathur is a psychiatrist and an all-around cool woman who thinks taking our time to respond to texts is a good thing. In a conversation we were having (over text, incidentally), she said that there should be…

“No pressure to respond right away at all, ever. That’s too hard of an expectation to live by, and perpetuates having to always be connected to the phone.”

She went on to say that we should respond to texts “when it feels right.”

love that. And though she meant when it feels right logistically, this could also the other kind of feeling right: when you have something meaningful to say. After all, do you always think about your responses carefully when you text — probably not. And have you ever rushed to respond to a question that perhaps deserved more thought — I know I’ve done this. (I also love the bit about the expectation of being connected to our phones all the time. Related: Do you check social media before sleeping?)

So — how long does it take you to respond to texts? And as a follow-up question, do you expect people to respond to your messages right away?

P.S. – Here’s why stay at home moms don’t pick up your phone calls, and here’s a 3-question quiz for determining how long you “should” wait to text someone back. Also, texting while walking. And while we’re talking about using our phones, here are some Instagram accounts for you to follow.

(Featured image found from this post on the “unspoken” rules of texting.)

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Dr. Punita Rice

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Dr. Punita Rice is a wife and mama, an education researcher, a writer, the founder and director of ISAASE, and an advisor with Johns Hopkins University School of Education's Doctor of Education program. Her work centers around multicultural education and equity, and South Asian American experiences in school. You can read more about Punita and her work here. Punita also writes about life, culture, education, and motherhood here on her blog. She works from home in Maryland, and drinks a great deal of coffee.